“Virgin whore” or why some guys beg to be scammed.

One of the main characters of this story is an American gentleman with Lebanese background. He is tall, sweet and easy-going. He was 46 years old when we have been introduced. Let’s call him Kevin. During our first conversation he was speaking about his successful career, his interest in classical music and about countries that fascinated him with their culture and history. But the events of this story took place 5 years prior our acquaintance.

A happy coincidence and a favorite work have sent Kevin to Moscow and then to Kiev to the IT sphere conference. During this trip not only has Kevin fallen in love with traditional Ukrainian borsch, but also this experience has finally opened his eyes to the fact that Slavic ladies are the most beautiful women on this planet. After returning back home to the USA Kevin still was under the spell of beautiful Slavic women. One evening Google search has introduced Kevin to “Mail-order Brides” web-sites or as I prefer calling them “Male order Brides”. Such a web-site can be described as an online catalogue filled with beautiful professional photos of gorgeous women usually from Eastern Europe, Columbia or Philippines. Kevin was never truly popular at local dating sites or on Tinder and to be honest if he went out ladies were not too eager to give him their phone numbers. But at that international dating site only 20 minutes after the registration Kevin has received more than 200 letters from beautiful much younger girls with model looks. Besides, Kevin could “filter” potential matches not only by their age, hair or eyes color, but also even by their cup size. In several weeks Kevin already was an “experienced” user of that dating site. If in his mailbox he saw a letter from a girl whose eyes were not green or whose breasts were not big enough he just deleted the message without even opening it! How dared she craving his attention! Every day at least 50 gorgeous Slavic ladies with seductive green eyes and really big breasts were expressing their love and admirations toward Kevin in their love letters.

After spending several months at the “Mail-order Brides” international dating site Kevin was 100% sure he has to travel to the country filled with sex goddesses with big breasts and green eyes craving for HIS attention. Kevin has created a list of 20 lucky girls, whom he has CHOSEN to actually meet in person. He has worked on this list for weeks deleting and adding lucky candidates.

Kevin has finally arrived to Kiev

Bright spring sun and clear blue sky have promised an unforgettable vacation. After checking in at the hotel despite feeling tired after almost 10 hours flight Kevin went to his first date. He has decided to “let the party started” with Alyona – slim young philology student with beautiful green eyes. She has impressed Kevin with stylish photos and playful letters.

Alyona was running late, but Kevin has decided not to let himself get too frustrated because of this. He had no doubts his vacation in Kiev would be epic. Finally Alyona has entered the restaurant. Kevin has recognized her long fair hair and sensual lips at once, but to his huge disappointment she was wearing casual blue jeans and a simple shirt that completely covered her breasts, which she so skillfully has demonstrated at her profile photos.

Alyona spoke English with a strong accent and was texting someone all the time

Right after the main course she called a taxi, gave some excuses, apologized several times and left.

Kevin had to finish his dinner all alone. He asked for the bill and has promised himself to be even pickier while choosing potential matches who might own his heart one lucky day. After all he was a guy with “really high standards” when it comes to women.

Oksana was the second lucky girl whom Kevin has decided to choose for a personal meeting. She was only 21 years old, but she wrote Kevin mature libidinous letters and often pampered him with her bikini photos and always praised his taste and eloquence. She promised to pick Kevin up right from his hotel by her car that was a gift from her daddy. Oksana was on her last year in the Law School and in her dating profile she claimed, that “age was just a number and should not prevent true feelings” and “the woman should please her man in every possible way, because God tells so”.

After the lunch Oksana has suggested to show Kevin the city. They have walked down two central streets and after that Oksana has asked Kevin if he could do her a favor and help her choose new shoes, because “he had such a unique sense of style and impeccable taste, which she trusted completely”. Kevin was really surprised to find in Kiev such brands as Prada and Gucci. In his mind Ukraine was a poor Soviet country. Still he wanted to make a good first impression on the young lady who was twice younger his age, so he has decided to be noble and to pay for the shoes she picked. Oksana was so happy to receive his “unexpected” gift that she even kissed his cheek.

After two hours of intensive shopping Oksana was filling the trunk of her car with beautiful paper bags filled with purchases. She has promised to wear the new lace dress for their date with Kevin tomorrow. By the way Kevin has almost lost his cool while paying 1400$ for it.

But the date unfortunately was postponed, because Oksana’s favorite aunt has “unexpectedly” showed up, and now poor Oksana had to attend a boring family reunion instead of holding Kevin’s hand and admiring his beautiful eyes.

But neither next day, nor two days after “young love” didn’t get a chance to blossom. Oksana’s father was the one to blame. The girl has written Kevin a sad “good bye” sms, telling that even though her heart was broken she had to obey her father, who unfortunately couldn’t let his only daughter date a gentleman twice her own age. Oksana has promised Kevin to “always love him and have him in her heart” and asked him not to call or text her again, because it would “break her soul into pieces”.

Kevin was mourning for a while, but several hours after he has received the “goodbye my love” sms from Oksana he has returned to his list of preselected ladies. After meeting most of the ladies from the list in person Kevin has realized that unfortunately most of the photos did not represent true looks of the ladies. Some ladies were so “cunning” that they actually wore green lenses during their photoshoots and on the dates with Kevin they arrived with boring brown eyes. Kevin was pissed!

One of the ladies from the list has taken him on a real city tours that she has prepared beforehand and has even bought tickets to the theater to listen to opera that Kevin has actually absolutely enjoyed. She has even bought him a cute souvenir – a beautifully decorated clay pot with local honey. Unfortunately the breasts of this lady were much smaller than Oksana’s and Alyona’s so Kevin did not actually consider her as a “serious match”.

Kevin has returned back home to the USA feeling disappointed. First of all he has brought back the whole untouched box of condoms that he bought prior to the trip, also unexpected shopping and expensive Champaign have significantly increased the budged of the trip, but Kevin was now adamant in his desire to date only Slavic ladies. He was absolutely sure that all American women were insane, because they didn’t want to date him, especially those in early 20s. And how could he after having a date with a beautiful 21 years old Oksana who rocked a D cup to even consider to date an “old” American lady in her 40s.

After two trips to Ukraine and one trip to Belarus Kevin was still single and his heart was still “craving for love”. During our first skype call he told me he just was not lucky with women, because some unexpected obstacles always prevented him from finding true love and being happy. He shared a story with me about his trip to Odessa, Ukraine. This city will always remain for him the symbol of “lost true love”. It was the city where he met Christina.

She was a gorgeous 19 years old woman. According to Kevin she looked like a dream. She was a sexy brunette “with the green eyes of an Angel and a body for sin” – that’s the quote from Kevin’s story. She was a hot brunette with perfect green eyes and perfect D cup bra size. Kevin was mesmerized by her “mature personality”, ability to play the violin and nude photos. Christina was so fascinated with Kevin that “only for his eyes” she did several provocative nude photoshoots.

Kevin said that their chemistry was so strong that their offline relationship has managed to be built in 3 days!

During these 3 days he bought her a new iPhone so that she could send him more nude selfies, one mink fur coat so that Christina wouldn’t freeze while Kevin return back home, a Valentino dress which she would wear for the concert in opera house where she claimed she worked as a professional violinist. But the most significant gift was a beautiful French lingerie that cost Kevin 400$, that he bought without hesitation, because Christina has promised to wear it while giving her virginity to Kevin.

Kevin had no doubts Christina was the one especially after she has confessed she has never ever kissed a man. But like always cruel fate has robbed Kevin of true happiness. Christina’s older brothers were not happy about her relationship with the American. Christina has even suggested Kevin to run away with him because she “loved him that much” even though her brothers have promised to find her and Kevin and to kill them both. “Noble” Kevin has decided not to ruin Christina’s family and not to make her choose between her true love – Kevin and her family. Besides, Kevin still had a Plan B – a list of other beautiful 19 years old brunets with big green eyes. This time Kevin has decided to “go younger”.

Anyway, Kevin has just sent Christina a “good bye” letter in which he told her he was returning back home to the USA with a broken heart while in real life he has just changed his plane tickets to stay in Odessa for 5 more days, partly because of the 19 years old blond whom he has met online that same morning. Actually Kevin was writing a “good bye” letter to Christina while waiting for this new blond crush. She was supposed to meet him at a restaurant by the hotel for dinner. Kevin has long ago decided that he preferred brunets, but Anna according to her photos had a tiny waist and really impressive breast, so he decided to “make and exception” for her.

Kevin has entered the restaurant to meet his date and he saw Christina. She sat on her brother’s lap, while her tongue was in his ear. She hasn’t even noticed her “true love” – Kevin. At first Kevin has tried to come up with a “reasonable explanation”, he even thought that this way Christina tries to convince her brother to let her be with Kevin. Kevin was just staring at his Angel on her brother’s lap. The brother has noticed Kevin and rose abruptly. He quickly crossed the room and stood in front of Kevin. He was a big guy in his early 30s with short hair and thick golden chain around his bull neck. His arms and fingers were covered in tattoos. Christina has once told Kevin that her brothers were a conductor of orchestra and a cellist, but this one looked more like a professional boxer than a person who worked at the opera house.

To Kevin’s huge surprise the brother in really poor English has suggested him to “have Christina for 400$”. Kevin was shocked! How could a brother literally sell his sister for only 400$? But Kevin has quickly reminded himself that he was in the “really poor country” and perhaps this was his chance to get Christina. But like Kevin has already said his fate had a sense of humor. Right at that moment his beautiful blond date Anna has entered the restaurant. She saw Kevin and “the cellist”, perhaps due to her shock said hello to Christina and has demanded money for taxi. Kevin could read pure disappointment in her eyes. Christina said something in Russian to Anna and after that told Kevin that she couldn’t believe he had absolutely no feelings to her and has actually cheated on her…

Kevin told me he understood he was the one blame for all that mess

I have asked Kevin at which website he has met those “high quality ladies”. He has sent me the link, telling me I should thoroughly check that website to understand the type and quality of the ladies he found appealing. When I have pressed the link my computer has warned me that I tried to enter a dangerous website. After ignoring warnings of my computer I have opened the website. I must admit I am still surprised how the marketers and PR specialist of that website have managed to use a popular Russian name, words “sex”, “marriage” and “hot” in its name. Perhaps the real professional team of philologists was involved.

Kevin didn’t become my client though he has reached me a few times. He has promised though to think about the possibility that Christina was actually not a virgin and perhaps even not a professional violinist who worked at the opera house, perhaps she was just a beautiful call girl. I really hoped that our skype call was of a value for Kevin, but he has managed to surprise me with his returning email. He has suggested an “interesting” unexpected theory. According to it Christina was a virginal whore who got a chance to change her life by giving her virginity to the best man of her life – to Kevin. But now Kevin understood that she did not love him strong enough and she did not show enough affection to him, she also could disobey her brothers but she didn’t so Kevin has decided to be a gentleman and not to take her virginity.

I have a really vivid fantasy and I consider myself a pretty creative person, but I couldn’t find “strong arguments” to contradict Kevin’s theory

I still try to understand how a grown-up well-travelled man with a great education, successful career at a prestigious IT company can sincerely believe in selfless virginal whores and at the same time knows that Santa is not real. I believe there should be special kind of butterflies, that people claim they feel in their stomach when they meet someone who takes their breath away, though these are actually not butterflies, but real cockroaches, that mess with the person’s mind and in the case of males make them think not with control center located in their heads, but with the one located below their belts. These “cockroaches” mess with their eyes, so that guys in their 50s who are seriously out of shape because they have never been to gym and haven’t worked out a day in their lives strongly believe that they are alpha-males and all girls in their late teens and early 20s find their big bellies irresistibly sexy. These same “cockroaches” send this crazy idea that just because the lady has big breasts or plump lips – she just has to be super smart and really family oriented. Same “cockroaches” make guys believe that if the girl has decided not to go out with him again – she is definitely a not serious about relationship materialistic and feministic cow, and the fact that during the date he was talking only about himself and hasn’t actually asked her a single question has nothing to do with it. Well, these “cockroaches” are so dangerous they can make a poor guy believe that all ladies want him and are literally ready to fight each other for his attention and those who won’t find are scammers and gold-diggers who want his money though he doesn’t have any.

Is there a cure? How to get rid of these pesky little creatures? Well, there are a few preventive methods: eat healthy, spend more time outdoors, try to meet real people offline and do not get obsessed with online dating especially if you pay for every letter to send and to receive. Keep your head on your shoulders and think with your head. Keep in mind that where you invest your love you invest your life.